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So, here's the deal. I know that a lot of you guys out there are probably going to get all bent outta shape at me 'cause you're the 'nice guys' and that I shouldn't label guys as the devil's advocates, blah blah blah - I'm not saying that. I figured I should put a little note at the top to clarify. I am merely pointing out the fact that I have seen a billion little, 'ode to the nice guys,' 'give us a chance' type things - and although I agree with them... I've yet to see one written from a girl's point of view. You know, when girls are 'treated poorly' in a relationship, or they like someone out of their league, it's automatically their fault for choosing a jerk as if they always knowingly walk into it. We get the whole, 'well, we told you so, you should've dated that other guy instead!' We always hear about the sob stories, 'you broke my heart, now I'm gonna drown in my own tears 'cause I hate men' bull crap, and that's how many girls are portrayed as when their feelings get hurt in a relationship type situation. These things could hold true in some cases... HOWEVER. No one ever talks about the effort that some of us put into things like love and relationships and trust. No one ever talks about how it's not easy to love someone who doesn't see you the same way - no one talks about how we wish we could choose who we fall for - because it's seen as stupid and childish. I think that's ridiculous.  So, this is to the girls who know what it feels like.. and a lot of the times it pertains to guys too, so take it how you wish.

For my friends who have been struggling:


Here's to the girls who love. Here's to the girls who put their hearts on the line. Here's to the girls who are honest about how they feel, even when it's hard to tell the truth, or are terrified to say it to the one they feel it for. To the ones who fall for guys who seem to have no idea about anyone or anything but themselves. Here's to the girls who are wanted for messing around but never taken seriously. Here's to the girls who are confused! How about the ones who can't help but think that he's going to change his mind? And you can't forget the girls who are "loved" but are never good enough to be girlfriends? Here's to the girls who give everything they have and get nothing in return. To the girls who wish they had never trusted him. Here's to the girls who gave their virginity to someone who didn't think twice about what he was doing. Here's to the girls who talk but are not heard. Here's to the girls who are wanted for sex, and when they're turned down, friendship is also out of the question. Here's to the girls whose ex-boyfriends think they have a say in new relationships (for the record, if you dumped her - leave her the hell alone as far as romantic issues are concerned). The girls who wait by the phone for hours just for a 'hello.' The girls who do everything in their power to be everything he needs, even if it means changing their physical appearance to something more 'satisfactory' (you're not dumb or insecure, you're wanting to make him see you as beautiful). Here's to the girls who are led on, and never told the truth. Here's to the girls who have hopes and dreams, and are holding on by a 'maybe'. Here's to the girls who want to let go, but can't. Here's to strength and faith in it all turning out okay. To the girls who only want to be noticed. Here's to the girls who love nothing more than to make him happy - sometimes even sacrificing themselves in exchange. Here's to the girls who are always the option, but never the priority.


Thanks to the complete jerk who asked me out today who made me realize how thoroughly upset I am about how these situations are. I hope you find the girl, out at the bars this weekend, who wants to use you like you do her... OR even better! I hope she doesn't take interest in you at all.


P.S. Guys, you know who she is. Don't let her go. Don't get so swept away in your own life to not be able to see that girl in your life who truly appreciates you - and who truly loves you... regardless of who you are and who you've been. Don't miss out on something incredible if she makes you happy.


"To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world."